This article was prompted by many who ignore their weaknesses at their own peril while only focusing on their strengths. It takes humility to be honest with yourself and say, “I could be better at ______. I will work on ________ for a cycle of training.” Periodization allows for that if the programming has cycles that focus on different elements of fitness (strength, power, speed, agility, endurance, muscle stamina, flexibility, mobility, core/grip strength). No one is good at all of these when they start their journey. Find out your weaknesses and strengths you bring to the table on Day 1 of your journey – Not Day 1 of Selection. Once it is Game Day and you are a few days into your Special Ops Selection, basic training, police/fire academy, your weaknesses will be already exposed. This now requires you to engage more mental toughness in order to just meet the standard instead of having proper preparation in order to exceed the standard. Your lack of humility caused this – not your lack of ability.
The recent articles on What is Good Enough, objectively described a standard that is good enough to get TO and THROUGH Special Ops type training programs. Where most people make mistakes is they lack the ability to address their weaknesses and instead overwork their strengths, only to be in a state of over training / injury on a few elements of fitness and completely lack the ability meet a standard once in the tactical training. Then it is too late. Because in the end – “Exceeding the Standard – IS the Standard.” So, how does humility help?
Honesty, Humility, Maturity
Call it honest with yourself, humility, or maturity, most of us prefer to avoid our weaknesses and do what we enjoy – our strengths. However, when preparing for something that will inevitably expose your weakness, the lack of honesty with yourself, maturity, and just humbling yourself to learn from people who can help you will be your downfall.
Life is Humbling
Life has a way of humbling us regularly usually at the time in life when we need it the most. For instance, when we go from 8th grade into high school, we are freshmen. The lowest of the low. This position can humble us – temporarily. But it is a time to work hard and grow. As we grow, we become more confident in the process, become leaders in the school / sports / clubs and can actually get a little cocky. If you can become humble at this moment, you will learn a valuable lesson in life EARLY. Because, guess what happens next year? Life will drop you down to size again as you will now be new to a job, a rookie, a freshman / plebe in school, or a recruit at boot camp / a candidate in selection. You will start out humble again. In humility we learn, it is difficult to learn when you are a know it all 18-year old and have life figured out. Humility stops arrogance and enables you to get focused, hungry, and work to be better each day. Besides after your selection, you are brought down again as a “New Guy” with even more to learn, more to prove to the Team, with higher stakes. You being able to humble yourself and learn from your teammates is critical from here on out.
An 18yr old who knew it all (#50) -
"was in football shape - I can handle the military"
The Humble Team Player / Leader
Knowing you do NOT have all the answers and sharing that with your team / platoon / boat crew / group, places you in a position to be open to suggestions from the team, make mistakes, ask for help when needed. Also, you will be able to help others on the team as well. By being a humble teammate / leader, you open yourself up to growing together as a team and build some resiliency as a group to handle the future challenges and losses – learning from them. But it will also help you be a good winner and learn to handle with grace and dignity. Being a leader or teammate, that is approachable will create a supportive team environment that allows the group to challenge themselves together and being open to taking calculated risks all starts from being a humble servant leader.
Meeting the Standards – Competition and Teamwork
Closing your mind to being humble can cause a leader or teammate to not be able to fit into the team very well. This can cause issues with meeting the standards as a team which will fragment and even destroy a team until fixed. People on the team who are failing to meet the standard set by the program will soon be replaced by other members of the class or overall group who are. These people who failed to prepare properly will eventually weed themselves out and quit or the system will drop them as failure to perform to the standard of the program. Have trust in the system to work as it is not the job of a student / teammate to run fellow students out of the program. Besides, success is not a good teacher, failure makes you humble. That is why many who try for a second time, tend to do better and graduate.
There are times in training / selection where there are individually timed events and your personal efforts are graded. Not as a team, but as an individual. These are the times where a healthy dose of competition with your teammates is helpful to your performance and others around you. Believe it or not, by pushing yourself and setting the standard that is exceeding the standard, others around you will follow. Sometimes you lead – sometimes you follow. Even though you are competing you are being a good team player by doing so. Also by giving technique, advice, or strategy tips to others in the class is what a good teammate does.
Humility Breeds Patience
When you are humble, you realize the weaknesses you may have. You have considered training options to get better and you realize that you do not have to be in a hurry to join. Read - Perfect Storm for Failure. Most age brackets to serve in Special Ops programs are as young as 18 years old and up to 29-30+ in some branches of service. You have plenty of time as that is not an age window but more of a barn door. Make sure you have met the standards of your future training program BEFORE you leave for training. If you do not know the standards, you are not ready. Being a mature, humble person means you have done the research because you realize you do not know it all. Once you realize all the weaknesses you bring to the table, you will set a different timeline for yourself so you can address them properly – IF you really want to make it through selection.
You need humility and patience in order to find the right path. Preparation for the journey won’t come fast, and it won’t come easy, but it will be worth the wait.
Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.
- John Wooden